Work life balance seems to be all the rage right now.  Some companies have pretty outstanding policies while others require you to be more dedicated than the next.  I feel like I fall somewhere in-between.  There is definitely effort to put to ensure people don’t get burnt out, but if you get assigned to help with multiple big ticket items well then you’re kind of screwed.  The other struggle I often see how, in life, we tend to reward people for quantity, not quality.

I found myself in a pretty particular situation the other day when I received a comment about eventually needing to put more time in during particular periods, and that it wasn’t fair to others that aren’t t the same point in their life as me.  Excuse me?!  Maybe you forgot about the 5 years prior when I worked whatever was asked of me, even if it meant sitting around waiting for problems to come.  Maybe you forgot about the fact that I don’t have a wife at home to make sure laundry is done, groceries have been bought, lunches have been packed, dinner has been made, or the house has been picked up.  Ok, so maybe this is stereotyping a little, but let’s get real.  The majority of women in relationships handle most of these tasks.

So when I received a text a few days ago from an old boss asking how I was and how they admired I was still trying to be “normal”.  Then it went on to say don’t let anyone anyone tell you that you can’t have both a professional career and be a mom.  Luckily I was on my way out because I literally started bawling.  There is no way this person knew that I felt like I was always juggling a million things and was recently somewhat criticized for needing to rearrange my priorities.  I don’t know why I feel like I need to act so tough all the time, but it felt really good to just vent and let it out.

At the end of the day I have no intention of changing my priorities and if that means making some changes in areas that lead me in different directions then that’s what will happen.  Over the past few weeks I really believe the universe knows that I am struggling and has been leaving me some hints a long the way.  We’ll see where my life takes me because

 

I will be the boss of my life

 

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I believe the difference between being successful and not achieving your goals is personal development.

Getting your mind in the right place is the one small thing you can do that will have a major impact. The first and one of my favorite books is “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero. If I am ever embarking on setting new goals (or resurrecting old ones) I pull this book out. If you are looking for the group hug, sitting around the campfire type guidance this book probably isn‘t for you. If you are looking for a gentle kick in the ass that won’t totally overwhelm you I highly suggest giving it a read (or get the audio version if you’re like me and don’t have 5 extra mins to spare).

I finally took the plunge and started a blog.  There will definitely be a learning curve, but I am excited that it’s up and running 😀