Your situation in life is 100% your choice. We may not choose the events that happen to us, but we are in complete control of how we react to them. We also seem to tend to think that negative thoughts or emotions are a bad thing. I would totally disagree with this. If something bad happens to you, i.e. a co-worker pisses you off at work it’s totally ok to be mad at them. It is not ok to punch them in the face; that tends to be frowned upon. If you lose a loved one, it’s ok to be sad. You can’t however blame them for living in a depressed state the rest of your life.
You will also always have problems in your life. Somewhere along the way I think as a society we developed this fake illusion that one day we are going to wake up happy and all of our problems will have just disappeared. If you really think about it solving one problem always creates another one. For example if you don’t have enough money (problem) you have to work harder to obtain more (different problem); you are out of shape and want to lose weight (problem) you have to start exercising and eating healthy (different problem).
Your life is a choice of the problems you want to have. I choose to live an active healthy lifestyle. This results in waking up early to exercise, which I can tell you is something I rarely want to do. It’s not that I don’t want to exercise, but when my alarm goes off at 430 each morning I’d rather just roll over and go back to bed. I also choose to eat relatively healthy. This often means I pass up things like pizza and burgers for a salad. The problem with choosing salads is that no matter how much you dress them up almost 100% of the time that piece of pizza tastes better. While I don’t see my choices necessarily affect me in the moment, over the course of days or weeks I have more energy and generally feel better. I am choosing to essentially suffer now so I don’t suffer later. This is a concept that seems totally lost to many but that is a whole different topic.
Today I am choosing to get over myself and start to create the life in which the “problems” I have are ones I am choosing for myself.